Class you in that group? You are a member of it.
Consider if you lived in a village and 3/4 of them were wiped out by several gangs of thugs -- mostly to punish them for associating with you -- then one of their leaders offers half-hearted regret and invites you for an "OOC chat."
We don't become angry at everyone attacks us; we fight back and send them on their way, hopefully the wiser. All too often however, as soon as they recover, they resume victimizing others. Perhaps all they got out of it was to be more careful about choosing their victims.
I don't mind that other people enjoy the game in different ways than us. We were never trying to force anyone to play the game our way; we were only trying to secure a pocket of sovereignty for ourselves and were willing to defend it or perish.
You have only succeeded in creating enemies where you previously had none.